Tuesday, March 25, 2008

On divorce

Every now and again I see something saying that yet another person I know has seperated/divorced.

As often as not I know that these are good people.

Not some feckless twats that have just played the French card after a few months.

I can't help but wonder why I have remained married. Apparently, the odds of remaining married ( with an Autistic child) are less than 20% in the 5 year period.

Like Han Solo in SW4- NEVER tell me the odds!

Perhaps I took the vows literally...

15 comments:

KG said...

Yeah, those pesky vows, eh?
Not some bullshit new-age wanker's ceremony with poetry by the bride's bestest girlfriend, with the bride and groom dressed up as characters from some fad movie...
In other words, a serious ceremony, not a fucking social event.
Love. Honour. Duty.
What inconvenient concepts for so many people.

sweetpea said...

What doesn't break us makes us stronger.
That seems to work just as well for marriage as anything else in life.
Positive proof that your backbone is present and correct Os.

Pique Oil said...

On Saturday we will be getting married. Both of us have been divorced and yes it is about vows. Ours will be a Social event but it will not detract from the sanctity of our vows. Vows made in the cathedral are as easily broken as those made on the beach. It is whether you mean them that is important, not where you make them. I asked my darling to marry me when we were picketing our stolen service station. Somehow I think the location may have been unusual, but rest assured the belief in each other was apparent to all.

KG said...

"Vows made in the cathedral are as easily broken as those made on the beach.."
But--I suspect--not as likely. Not so much for religious reasons, more to do with the motivations for the marriage and the seriousness of the people entering into it.

Lindsay said...

I look around me and see all these people separating and re-partnering - having all the apparent fun of fresh romance and the kids less often - and I wonder too Oswald.

But do you think the kids are having a ball?? I don't. And there is a lot to be said for loyalty and trust and love, even if it does get a little lost in the familiarity.

My family is my rock. If I want excitement I look for it where it won't hurt them.

Lindsay said...

Anyway, talking about odds, the chances of ever finding anybody else who would put up with you Oswald are worse than the odds of winning lotto:-)

Murray said...

From experience its takes two people to take the vow seriously.

Pique Oil said...

Yes Murray you are correct. That was the point I was trying to make. Being true to your vows and having your spouse ignore the same vows is all too common.

MK said...

"Perhaps I took the vows literally..."

To me too many people think marriage is only about love, it is but it's mostly loyalty and sacrifice.

Oswald Bastable said...

To me, it's about a commitment to raise children.

It's like soldiering. Shut the fuck up, take the pain with the good and see the job through. And hopefully you live through it!

Oswald Bastable said...

Lindsay,

Yes- it took me 38 years!

Anonymous said...

for god sake ostable yous got to pull yourself together and realize that you hold life is just a fluke dude,
look yous ideas brilliant dude but it just a fluke,after the first few year i guess yous wife say oh well what the hell that just the way he is ostable.
peterquixote

Oswald Bastable said...

Peter you fucktard- it ain't a fluke- it's about WORKING at something.

Now fuck off the hell out of here you frickin craphead!

Murray said...

My god what hes done to the Queens English makes Jack the Ripper look like a girl scout.

Mrs Smith said...

you tell 'em, Ostable!